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Keys To Life: What’s On My Keychain

You read that right! Finally got published on Hubpages today. I’m still trying to figure out if it’s something everyone gets granted or just a select few. Nevertheless, read on:

Keys To Life: What’s On My Keychain (2014) 

http://vinette.hubpages.com/hub/Keys-To-Life-Whats-On-My-Keychain-2014

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Dear Family and Friends:

I’ve spent the last three months turning in over 200 job applications. Holy moly!!!! Is it the current state of our job market? Or my inability to stand out in a crowd of over 100 applicants per job/career opening? Maybe it’s my lack of experience? Am I applying for the wrong jobs? Or most recently, does my personality even fit the job? Where exactly do you obtain this, “experience,” when all openings require said, “experience? I really have no idea.

I keep getting told/continuously remind myself that one day, my career will arrive and I will understand exactly why none of these other options seemed to work. But then again, I get told  that about every aspect of my life. Whether it’s boys, careers, what tattoo I should/shouldn’t get, a lot of the same rules apply:

The right career/man/idea will happen. Patience matters.

All the other careers/men/ideas you really liked/wanted to work weren’t worth your time. But kind of might have been. Did you have fun?

Your career/he/it should make you feel worthy of the time you’ll be investing. You should feel respected and valued by the company/him/it too.

Distance shouldn’t matter, if it’s something you really want to invest your time in. 

I mean, there’s a plethora of advice I’ve been given but it all pretty much boils down to these four. Good advice? Absolutely. Will I listen? Maybe.

Besides those words of wisdom to my fellow new grads and gratitude to the ones that offered the advice, I wanted to address the crazy behavior I’ve been having lately. I thought I might be going through some weird depression, or health problem the other day so, instead of turning to drugs, I turned to WebMD. I clicked my symptoms, went through the regular procedure and to my surprise got, “Menopause,” as a top result. Menopause?! I’ve barely made it to my child bearing age! Omg when I actually do approach, “the change,” is it going to be a million times worse?!? (Everyone beware!) I then realized that this insane drive to do well, have a career, travel, be happy, have friends blah blah was turning me into this really crazy monster. I’m happy, don’t get me wrong, but it’s triggered this high stress I was never prepared to deal with in my post grad life. A stress even higher and more intense then that which you experience during finals. And believe me, it’s gone haywire during finals for me, but that’s to be saved for another blog.

Getting back on topic, the smallest things upset me nowadays and I know a lot of you have noticed. For example, I went out to dinner the other night and the server presented me with what seemed like, 68734905724298365 options for my meal. I literally almost broke down and cried. Thankfully, I didn’t break down and cry. I just said, “Ok,” leaving the waiter absolutely confused. He rolled with it and gave me whatever, with the help of my family.

But let’s get to the point I want to make here. THANK YOU FOR BEING MY SUPPORTIVE AND PATIENT FRIENDS AND FAMILY. I know you all hate it when I have my minor meltdowns, hissy fits, “Get this done now!” times followed by my, “omg! You’re the best!, moments but I’m beginning to understand myself and what I really want in life( I mean does anyone ever figure that out?). Don’t worry, i’ll be back to me soon, if that’s still who I actually am? Again, so many things I was never, and may never be, ready for. The post grad life has seriously brought out this volatile mix of emotions that literally drive me nutzo.

I think this all began when a friend of mine sincerely asked me how post grad life was, noting that it could be hard to get used to (Well shit! I wish someone had told me that sooner!). I fibbed, a little, and said it was great, obviously because it sometimes is, but the point was that no one had asked me that yet. From that point, I began to really question myself and go into that blah blah inner journey, soul searching phase, is finding a career now really the best option? What should I do now? So many questions. (Again, so much gratitude goes to that friend.)

So here I am, ranting about my post grad life. I’ll probably look back on this and think, “Wow! I thought I really knew then…” but I thought you  all might want to understand me now. And understand that not being in school for the first time in almost 20 years has really taken its hold on me. It’s a seemingly endless journey with no absolute plans. It seems like it sucks one day, but it is the best the next. And that all effects my mood greatly.

I’m starting to understand that a lot of us have no idea what we’re doing. That I’m not the only one. And this pressure to do well is hard for us. The job market is completely saturated. As millennials, we grow up in a time where there is not enough jobs available to us. Where we are competing against men and women who have been in our chosen fields for far many more years than us, but yet still do not have the experience to have a stable career.

But let’s not get too deep into it. If you want to talk about it, I would be happy to talk more with you, in a more private setting. (Wow. I think this post might win, “Most feelings shared,” as you all understand I’m very private.) The main point here: New grads beware! And thank you friends and family for being so supportive and understanding. You’re the best!

AND most of all, thank you for reading my rant.

To new careers, challenges, and fun! Here we go to Arizona, maybe Texas, back to California, and all over the Pacific Northwest (And perhaps, some parts of middle America)! Let’s adventure!

Now, here’s an obligatory picture, with my favorite flowers, on my graduation day for the ones that love to breeze through post and look only at the pictures. It’s a good one, right?

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Well, school’s out! I made it through, yet another semester and am even closer to getting my Bachelor. Perhaps, one of the greatest this I learned this semester is that making a short film, or art for the matter, isn’t about expensive editing software or fancy cameras. It’s about using what’s available to you. Yes, a very cliche lesson I have learned here, but completely true.

Check out my short video! (Please? It’s only about a minute and a half long!)

I’ve worked at a local San Francisco shoe/street wear store for almost two years now. And baby, it’s been one of the most interesting adventures of my life! I’m serious. I mean it!

It seems fitting that I would blog about this seeing that we are about ready to re open the doors to our main store at 1415 Haight Street this weekend. I’ve watched both the store itself, and its employees go through trials, tribulations and everyday life. For me, it’s been a growing and changing experience.

First, I’d like to thank my good friend and fellow employee, Andre Schneider, for inviting me into this wonderful world of athletic/collector shoes and streetwear. Before working at TRUE SOLE, where I originally started, I owned something like 3-4 pairs of athletic shoes. I thought, “you wear them to the gym, right? You have one shoe to exercise indoors and one for outdoor exercise.” Boy, was I wrong.

For some, sneakers are a fashion statement, a work of art, or even a symbol of wealth. While I’m still trying to grasp this idea, I have come to terms with the idea that a pair of Air Jordans are just as expensive (and possibly just as comfortable) as a pair of Uggs. But why is it that I have to think about purchasing a pair of sneakers for about a week, but then, won’t even bat an eyelash when purchasing a pair of Uggs? Maybe it’s just preference. (P.S. I’m still thinking about buying those sneakers and P.P.S I know you all hate me/ won’t allow me into the back room while wearing Uggs.)

My adventure in the streetwear/clothing retail world, on the otherhand, began about a year ago when our two main stores, in San Francisco, California were forced to merge due to a two-alarm fire that happened on the morning of August 11, 2011. Before this, I pretty much only knew what I had taken from working in the corporate world of Nordstrom (my first job, at the tended age of 16…my that was sooo long ago). Through the course of the year, I’ve observed the process of how clothing is made and what groups certain products are marketed to etc. It’s been quite the learning experience, if I do say so myself. In turn, it’s such a gratifying experience to work with a smaller business where you get to learn the basics of how things are run. You’ll learn mostly about business, but how to apply that to your everyday life.

Besides the matter of shoes and clothing, the environment is wonderful! Haight Street is full of various people. There’s the locals, the tourists, the trustifarians, and the just plain weirdos (but what’s weird for Haight Street, right?). I can proudly say that after about two years, my French has improved, my english has improved, and of course, my tolerance for rudeness has gone WAY up. We get customers from all over so there’s always a variety of people I’m coming in contact with. Besides the customers, my fellow employees are just a joy to work with. On regular days, there’s usually alot of time to sit around and enlighten each other with our lives’. To me, this is such a joy! I love listening to people from all walks of life. And I know everyone loves to talk about themselves. It’s really a perfect situation for me.

With that, I can’t even express enough how much working with this company has truly changed my life. Two years ago, they gave me the chance to work with them. I didn’t have the skill set to work in retail, since I hadn’t even worked a real job in over a year! From that, I’ve learned my biggest lesson:

When someone gives you a chance, take it. And take it with grace and respect. 

Besides that, I’ve learned alot more. Like never to burn bridges, only borders. I’ve burned alot of these, “borders,” with TRUE. I never knew about shoes, clothing, or even retail, but I allowed myself to learn. Again, they gave me the chance. So I asked as many questions as possible, learned, and am continuing to learn. APPLY THIS TO YOUR LIFE.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Isn’t this just a part-time job for this young, naive girl? Why is she talking about it like it’s her life career?” Yes, it is a part-time job for me, and no I don’t plan to make a career out of this (or am I?). But I have had many part-time/freelance jobs in my short 23 years of life. Yes, most of those were just, “jobs,” to me. They seemed alot colder, less welcoming, and more money driven than anything. TRUE has allowed me to take a ton of chances, make mistakes and learn from them, and especially has shown, and will continue to show me what discipline in working is.

But ok, I’ll have to cut this inspiration/sob story/whatever it is short. With inspiration from the structure of Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture, maybe you caught my two head fake’s here? Well, the first obvious one was about taking chances when they’re given to you (remember that, strictly), but the second is to invite you all to come visit the new store. We open Saturday, and while I’m not scheduled to work, I hope you will all be there, because I will!

Cheers!

The best picture I could find. The store as it looked, the first day I worked there:

Every year, or whenever I can, I take a little bit of time out of my busy schedule to write about what I’ve learned in the past year. i call them my “Keys To Life,” each rule being a sort of ,”Key,” I take along with me, on an imaginary keychain, everywhere I go. This year, I’ve added new rules, changed old ones, and merged some things together. I do this purely for myself, to make sure I’m headed in the right direction, but as always, I love sharing and getting feedback. So here it is: three years, three different blogs later, I present to you, my newest version of Keys To Life! Enjoy!

TEN THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 23:

In no specific order,

1. Thank people. Thank people often, but MEAN IT. Say sorry, but only when sorry is due. 

In my last Key blog, I wrote about only saying sorry when you really mean it. This goes the same way. We live in a world where we say, “sorry,” and, “thank you,” to one another so often it becomes sort of, in-sensitized, in a way. Say, “thank you,” to people often, but mean it. Be grateful for everything, especially for those small, special things. This will take you a long way.

Now, if you’re wondering about the, “sorry,” part. Please refer to last year’s Keychain blog.

2. “Never let the ‘hood talk down to you.” -Andre Schneider

This rule was made clear to me by my good friend, and fellow employee  on my first day at TRUE Sole, about two years ago. In other words, never let anyone make you feel lower than yourself. A person should have pride in who he/she is and in what he/she does. AND while having that pride, he or she should not force another to feel lower than him/her. We are all equals and should be helping each other out. Not competing to be the best. “Live together. Die Alone.”- LOST 

3. Befriend your colleagues and coworkers. NETWORK.  

Again, another shameless “networking,” rule. I know, I know, it gets redundant year after year, but I can’t stress to you enough how important it is to meet people. For instance, I’m a music media major, I HAVE TO be friends with the people in my classes. These people are the future. THESE people could be my bosses one day. AND doesn’t everyone want to be on their bosses good side?

Besides that, join organizations and associations that will put you in contact with well, everyone. You never know who you’ll meet!

4. It’s all about the journey!…and the sweet success, but don’t forget to account your journey!

Making my acquaintance with 2012 was awesome, but not at the time it was happening! I planned to be at a certain place all night, but getting there through public transportation was somewhat of a journey. Even though I spent New Years at a different place than I originally assumed, the journey was something I will never forget. What I’m saying is, even though the road to wherever you may be going might be super bumpy, make sure to take account of that. These are the times when you’re building bonds, strengthening relationships and working through the difficult time together. Besides, all of this makes the celebration at the end that much sweeter.

5. Never assume. 

Do not EVER assume anything. You might be interpreting something in a completely different way than someone else. Let others help you understand instead of just jumping to conclusions. Ask questions. Get answers. What YOU THINK is going on, might not be ACTUALITY.

6. Make mistakes. 

In 2011-2012, I made ALOT of them. Especially ones that showed up on social networking sites like Facebook, etc (No, not nude photos). Although I did make alot of mistakes, I learned from them. Life is long and you have tons of time to learn. So yes, make mistakes, make LOTS of them but learn from them, accept that they happened, say sorry when you should, AND DON’T REPEAT.

“There are no failures on a long enough road.”- Donald Glover/Childish Gambino

7. Stop stalking, “that certain person,” on Facebook! 

Ok, I’ll admit it, I’ll snoop around your Facebook if I haven’t seen you in a bajillion years and I want to know, “What’s up?” without having to ask but what I mean here is stop continuously checking the Facebook of your boyfriend/girlfriend/ladyfriend/gentlemenfriend/crush/bestfriend etc. Of course, read what comes up on your newsfeed to stay relevant, “like,” when liking is due, “poke,” when you should but stop singling out that certain person’s page. I mean, if Facebook is the way you communicate with someone, by all means, do what works for you. But for alot of people, checking a close friend’s Facebook too often usually breeds jealousy and assumption(and you already know how I feel about assumptions). The truth is on Facebook, but there are also alot of things that appear to be truth, but are really not.

8. You’re going to have a pivotal moment in your life when you realize why you are, who you are and why you do, what you do. 

First, don’t panic. Take things step by step. Without saying too much, I recently realized why a deal with things a certain way, and why things always seem to fall within the same cycle. For me, it wasn’t a very good cycle to be a part of, so things had to change. I know this all sounds vague, but it’s not something I’m ready (and maybe never will be) to publish on the Internet but here’s a hint for dealing with  this kind of thing: If you realize something is going wrong in your life, it might be because of your upbringing. Do not blame your parents, they were raised a certain way as well. Try not to blame anyone. Focus on breaking that cycle and making yourself a better person.

9. When something terrible happens, cry about it for 10 minutes. Then, stop and figure out what you can do about it. 

I owe this one to Oprah Winfrey. It’s probably one of the things I repeat to myself on the regular, besides my new mantra, “Britney Spears made it through 2007, so you can certainly make it through today.” But seriously, think about it. Something bad happens, you’re sad but you can’t stay sad forever. Learn to pick yourself up(seriously, ON YOUR OWN), and decide what you’re going to do about it. There’s usually a ton of options. Pick what’s right. Go with your gut. Get advice from friends too. It usually helps!

On a sidenote, this rule kind of goes along with: Life isn’t fair. And by 23, believe me, I’ve realized life really isn’t fair. So suck it up and figure out what you’re going to do. There’s ways around everything if you look. You’re probably just hanging on to the idea that your situation will fair out ideally for you. It will, but you might just have to take a different route.

10. Sometimes, you really do need to plan. 

I know it sounds nerdy, but I recently sat down and seriously thought about my three year plan, five year plan and the ever so long from now, but not really, ten year plan. Maybe this is just me freaking out about my impending graduation here, but I can’t be a retail salesperson and freelancer for life!

While I’m all about living in the present moment, sometimes you need to know what you’re planning to do later on down the road. Things change, I know, but it keeps you calmer knowing you have some structure or life plan in the books!

With all of this planning, make sure to keep your priorities straight. Stick to what you believe and realize that some things in life need to be prioritized higher than others. Be ahead of the game and know what you want. Majoring in partying, smoking, drinking and celebrating is fun in the present moment, but will that make you successful later on?

Postnotes:

So there it is. More rules I believe in and things I know for sure, now that I’m 23. It’s really crazy, looking back on my first and second set of rules and remembering exactly where I was as that time. I still believe in everything I’ve written and hope that never changes as I become older. We’ll see. Cheers!

Take a look at my previous Keychain blogs:

 http://vinettegoestoaz.blogspot.com/ (READ: DEAR ARIZONA)

http://hellovinette.tumblr.com/post/976532009 (READ: DEAR SAN FRANCISCO) 

Note To Future Self: This song came up on my Pandora the other day. I won’t tell you what station I was listening to, as it was rather embarrassing, but please make sure you’re always in a place like this. Feeling young, pop, never a problem love, in every aspect of your life. This song made me smile for the rest of day! Now, take in this awesomely cheesy song!

Love,

Vinette

P.S. Ok, I was listening to ,”The Maine,” Radio.

I realized I post a fair amount of blogs mainly centered around my life, and what I do, but this year, instead of my usual, “Here Comes The New Year,” blog, in which I rant and rave about all of the things I will do in the upcoming year, and list the many things I will leave behind in the current year, I thought I’d post something we all (meaning you, like what is it? 3 people that actually read this?) could benefit from!

Yes, everyone, I’m leaving my New Years’ Eve blog to a Canadian. I ran across this blog, written by psychiatrist, Marca Sirota, on Huffington Post. In it, Sirota lists 10 Good Habits To Cultivate In 2012. And if you’re feeling really ambitious, feel free to read: 10 Bad Habits To Leave Behind In 2012. 

It’s all pretty self explanatory, but it’s nice to have a reminder, and a little encouragement to be strong in 2012!

See you all in the new year! Cheers!

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